True Happiness Questionnaire

Discover Your Level of True Happiness

Traditional tests that assess your level of happiness simply aren’t reliable when it comes to true happiness. Why? Because my experience is that when people say they are happy, some aren’t. They are simply good at medicating, controlling or distracting themselves from what they are truly feeling. There are a lot of different ways to get out of what you are truly feeling, including: blaming others, excessive busyness, overeating, compulsive judging of others and oneself, manipulation, lying, using food and sugar to change the way we feel, drinking alcohol, people pleasing, overachieving, excessive TV watching, comparing, over thinking, avoiding intimacy and overworking. To discover the truth of how you are feeling, you essentially need to give up or at least moderate these strategies (In my book I share a 14-day test which shows you how to do this).

When it comes to true happiness - the deep sense of inner well-being, peace and vitality that is with you most of the time, in most circumstances, the most useful assessment is of the two most contributors to true happiness. The first is your level of emotional maturity and the second your level of present moment awareness. If you haven’t done so already you can read more about these by clicking here.

How grown up and awake are you?

The following questionnaires to assess how emotionally mature and aware of the present moment you are. Be mindful of your inner critic using your results to judge that you should be more grown up or more ‘awake’. The purpose is to clearly see and accept the reality of where you are at, so that you can now move forward with greater clarity and motivation.

Emotional Maturity Questionnaire

Below are twenty statements with which you may agree or disagree. Using the scale below, indicate the extent to which you agree with each item by choosing the appropriate number. Be as open and honest in your response as possible - and don't get too tangled up in the words - just trust your instinct.

strongly agree = 7, agree = 6, slightly agree = 5 neither agree nor disagree = 4, slightly disagree = 3, disagree = 2, strongly disagree = 1


I am...

1.

Actively creating a healthy, meaningful and fulfilling life that is directed by my values - the things that are most important to me

2.

Committed to realising my full potential

 

3.

Engaging in rich and satisfying relationships

 

4.

committed to being the most loving person I can be

 

5.

Approaching life with the attitude of 'what can I give', rather than 'what can I get'

 

6.

Able to give to/help others without any conditions or expectations most of the time

 

7.

True to myself and the needs of the situation I am in most of the time

 

8.

Actively embracing healthy self-care

 

9.

Proactively addressing my blocks to emotional, physical and sexual intimacy

 

10.

Moving through the emotions that are preventing me from making peace with the past. I'm releasing my resentments as and when I am aware of them

 

11.

Working with my thoughts and emotions in a way that promotes greater health and personal growth

 

12.

Facing reality wherever possible and taking appropriate actions when relevant and appropriate

 

13.

Able to adapt flexibly and creatively to situations and to embrace change

 

14.

Working towards compassionate acceptance of myself and others

 

15.

Able to truly listen to others and experience empathy

 

16.

Embracing change

 

17.

Enjoying my life, having fun and experiencing a light-heartedness most of the time

 

18.

Able to have and maintain healthy and flexible physical, sexual, emotional, intellectual and spiritual boundaries with others

 

19.

Actively addressing any addictions, health problems, mental health or trauma issues that I have

 

20.

Able to communicate clearly and respectfully my needs and perspectives to others

 

Present Moment Awareness Questionnaire

Below are twenty statements with which you may agree or disagree. Using the scale below, indicate the extent to which you agree with each item by choosing the appropriate number. Be as open and honest in your response as possible. Again, don't get caught up in exact meaning of the statements, just trust your instinct.

strongly agree = 7, agree = 6, slightly agree = 5 neither agree nor disagree = 4, slightly disagree = 3, disagree = 2, strongly disagree = 1


I am...

1.

Always fully present in the moment

2.

Open to and welcoming all experiences as they occur

 

3.

Experiencing an undercurrent of gratefulness throughout my waking moments

 

4.

Aware of what I am thinking, feeling and sensing in the moment with ease

 

5.

Aware of a strong feeling of vitality within my body in each moment

 

6.

Aware of a natural sense of well-being, peace and joy that is unaffected by my emotions and thoughts

 

7.

Able to control and direct my attention away from negative thoughts/images at will

 

8.

Responding to challenging situations from awareness and from what I intuitively feel is right

 

9.

Present and aware when eating

 

10.

Welcoming all emotions equally

 

11.

Trusting that I will know what to do or how to respond when challenged by my life circumstances

 

12.

Embracing the realisation that fulfilment exists right here, right now

 

13.

Able to know without doubt that when I hurt others I hurt myself

 

14.

Able to be present and to experience a loving connection to the person I am with irrespective of what they say or do

 

15.

Actively embracing not knowing

 

16.

Wholeheartedly engaging life with awareness and acceptance

 

17.

Waking up to the realisation that consciousness (life) is evolving through me

 

18.

Responding to my life situation with actions that are creative, spontaneous and unconditioned

 

19.

Not focused on becoming somebody but committed to remembering who I am

 

20.

Living with the knowledge that everything is an invitation to wake up to my true nature

 

Total Scores

Emotional Maturity Total Score

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Present Moment Awareness Total Score

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